Essays
Here’s what I wrote for 3quarksdaily. They’re good people who do good work. It was an honor to contribute to their fine site.
2019
It’s easy to lose track of the important things. Not the thing we’re supposed to believe are important, but the actual ones. This is the story of my rediscovering of the wonder of our existence in an unlikely place.
As you may have guessed from the title, this one is all about feet. It’s amazing what you can learn from a knowledgeable sales person. Equally amazing is all the stuff you might not have known about your feet and different ways to lace shoes.
2018
Being an emotionally responsible fan isn’t easy. Cheering for a historically bad team doesn’t help. As a Cleveland Browns fan, I support the 0-16 Perfect Season Parade in the name of coming closer to the reason why we’re fans in the first place.
This month I decided to celebrate the life of John Perry Barlow. From his work as a technologist and free internet pioneer, to a code of conduct he wrote in his 30s, to his most meaningful work (at least to me) as a lyricist for the Grateful Dead.
This month’s piece is a public service announcement about a potential danger we all face each and every day of our lives. Take a moment to read (or listen). Learn to protect yourself and your loved ones. Practice safe conversation.
TV and binge-watching. Wasteful time-sinks or potentially healthy and rewarding uses of time? Depends. Both the tool (TV) and the technique (binge-watching) are neutral with the benefit and determent determined by how they’re used. Are you pounding through some delicious CW trash (Love me some Sam and Dean) or eating enriching brainfood like TruTv’s Adam Ruins Everything?
This month we dip our toes into play therapy. It turns out you can learn a lot about a person by observing the way they play games. But more important, you can also nurture certain behaviors and qualities in yourself (and others) by the way you play. Connect to explore empathy or win to unleash your inner sociopath.
This is about the intersection and connection of ideas in seemingly disparate sources. It turns out, there are some ideas about Zen and wu wei in the lines of Faust. Geothe was a reincarnated Chinese monk was my way poetic and playful way of saying so.
For the last year I’ve been writing a book with a family play therapist named Mary Morgan. She’s been in practice for 40+ years and collaborating with her has been great. As a single guy, with no kids, who also happens to be an only child, I feel like I’ve learned some things I never knew about child development. Here’s a taste. An appetizer, if you will… (The main course, The Treasure of Toys, will be in print soon!)
We all know endings are sometimes hard. Two fundamental aspects of how the mind works, loss aversion and mnemonic salience, come together and amplify the impact of grief and loss. Understanding these processes doesn’t take the pain away, but it may offer a little solace of perspective…
This one is a little different from my previous essays. Because we live in the future, and Spotify is a thing, I decided to share with you the best medicine I discovered for managing grief – my feel good playlist. It’s 19 tracks of music, everything from Bone Thugs to Bowie, to get your head right.
Thoughts are things. Lots of people have said this before, but I use my experience as a Cleveland Browns fan to explore the idea even further. It’s about (s)PTSD, leaving the template of the past, and feeding what feeds you.
A Chinese tongue twister, advice of life and fruit, and a conversation. This is the beginning of what I imagine is going to be an ongoing, irregular series. Enjoy Chef Mike and the first installment of “Things I’ve Learned From People I Know.”
It turns out being a cis, hetero, white guy comes with its fair share of privileges. Most, if not all of which, go entirely unnoticed unless consciously checked. This is the story of me addressing some of mine at a concert in Las Vegas. Enjoy!
This month I wrote about the most important lesson I learned in 2018. As you might have guessed, it has to do with joy. The biggest take away? Life is more fun when you do things that make you feel like a little kid again.
2017
Let’s face it – change is hard. Most of us have tried to do it. Most of us have failed. The reason? Mind closets. “What’s a mind closet?” you ask. Well, guess you’ll have to read and find out.
It’s Presidents Day 2017! What better way to celebrate than learning about the 11th president? If Polk isn’t your polka (couldn’t resist) then check it out for the ideas on civil disobedience and wisdom from Kings.
Guess what – you have a superpower. Your superpower is storytelling. How you use it matters. You can be a hero. You can be a villain. The choice is yours. But remember what Uncle Ben (and Voltaire) say, “with great power comes great responsibility.”
Building off of the previous column, this one features more practical information about using your superpower. It also delves into science and Einstein’s proficiency with luggage. There’s an audio format for your listening pleasure.
It’s only five letters long, but the most dangerous word has a lot going on. It weighs us down, it’s full of false promises, and has a tendency to do more harm than good. Any guesses? No? Well then you’ve got to read (or listen) to find out.
Doubt is a drizzle. Courage is wet socks. Confidence is a hot shower. Intrigued? Good. Take a more in-depth look at what confidence is and isn’t, how we get it, and why we’ve been wrong. (Free audio version – here.)
Often times we think there’s nothing we can do. The system is too big. We are too small. Based on Prof. Timothy Snyder’s book On Tyranny, here’s a list of things you can do today to fight the good fight. Plus, you get to learn to recognize the politics of eternity and inevitability