by Louise L Hay
– What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us.
– We create our experiences, our reality and everyone in it. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives.
– What you choose to think about yourself and about life becomes true for you.
– If I want to believe that life is lonely and that nobody loves me, then that is what I will find in my world… “Love is everywhere, and I am loving and lovable.”
– Please don’t put yourself down for being where you are.
– However, I would not blame our parents for this. We are all victims of victims, and they could not possibly have taught us anything they did not know. If your mother did not know how to love herself or your father did not know how to love himself, then it would be impossible for them to teach you to love yourself.
– We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs.
– The past has no power over us. It doesn’t matter how long we have had a negative pattern. The point of power is in the present moment. What a wonderful thing to realize! We can begin to be free in this moment.
– The more self-hatred and guilt we have, the less our life works. The less self-hatred and guilt we have, the better our lives work, on all levels.
– Resentment that is long held can eat away at the body and become the disease we call cancer. Criticism as a permanent habit can often lead to arthritis in the body. Guilt always looks for punishment, and punishment creates pain. (When a client comes to me with a lot of pain I know they are holding a lot of guilt). Fear, and tension it produces, can create things like baldness, ulcers, and even sore feet.
– When we are in a state of panic, it is very difficult to focus our minds on the healing work. We have to take time out to dissolve the fears first.
– “I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I forgive you and I set you free.”
– Forgiveness means giving up, letting go.
– All we need to do is to be WLLING to forgive
– There is only one thing I ever work one, and that is LOVING THE SELF. I find that when we really love and accept and APPROVE OF OURSELVES EXACTLY AS WE ARE everything in life works.
– Loving and approving of yourself, creating a space of safety, trusting and deserving and accepting
– Loving the self, to me, beings with never ever criticizing ourselves for anything. Criticism locks us into the very pattern we are trying to change. Understanding and being gentle with ourselves help us to move out of it. Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.
– “In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. I believe in a power far greater than I am that flows through me every moment of every day. I open myself to the wisdom within, knowing that there is only One Intelligence in this Universe. Out of this One Intelligence comes all the answers, all the solutions, all the healings, all the new creations. I trust this Power and Intelligence, knowing that whatever I need comes to me in the right time, space, and sequence. All is well in my world.”
– I believe that should is one of the most damaging words in our language. Every time we use should we are in effect saying “wrong.” Either we are wrong or we were wrong or we are going to be wrong. I don’t think we need more wrongs in our life.
– Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.
– If we deny our good in any way, it is an act of not loving ourselves.
– Lack of self-worth is another expression of not loving ourselves.
– Tiny babies will die if they do not get love. Once we are older, we learn to live without love.
– To me, it (overweight) is always fear and a need for protection. When we feel frightened or insecure or “not good enough,” many of us will put on extra weight for protection.
– “In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. I am always Divinely protected and guided. It is safe for me to look within myself. It is safe for me to look into the past. It is safe for me to enlarge my viewpoint of life. I am far more than my personality – past, present, or future. I now choose to rise above my personality problems to recognize the magnificence of my being. I am totally wiling to learn to love myself. All is well in my world.”
– Old magazines and newspaper and dirty paper plates can be dropped into the waste baskets very calmly. There is no need to get angry in order to clean a room. It is the same thing when we are cleaning our mental house. There is no need to get angry just because some of the beliefs in it are ready to be tossed out. Let them go as easily as you would scrape bits of food into the trash after a meal.
– Would you really dig into yesterday’s garbage to make tonight’s meal? Do you dig into old mental garbage to create tomorrow’s experiences?
– Each one of us has a three-year-old child within us, and we often spend most of our time yelling at the kid in ourselves. Then we wonder why our lives don’t work.
– Blame is one of the surest ways to stay in a problem. In blaming another, we give away our power. Understanding enables us to rise above the issue and take control of our future. The past cannot be changed. The future is shaped by our current thinking.
– Whenever we blame someone else, we are not taking responsibility for ourselves.
– Understanding will bring compassion.
– If you demand perfection from them, you will demand perfection from yourself, and you will be miserable all your life.
– “In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. The past has no power over me because I am willing to learn and to change. I see the past as necessary to bring me to where I am today. I am willing to begin where I am right now to clean the rooms of my mental house. I know it does not matter where I start, so I now begin with the smallest and the easiest rooms, and in that way I will see results quickly. I am thrilled to be in the middle of this adventure, for I know I will never go through this particular experience again. I am willing to set myself free. All is well in my world.”
– There is no written law that says we can only think in one way. Whatever I choose to believe becomes true for me. Whatever you choose to believe becomes true for you. Our thoughts can be totally different. Our lives and experiences are totally different.
– If you seem unable to attract a relationship, you may believe “Nobody loves me,” or “I am unlovable.”
– Until someone can show you the connection between the outer experiences and the inner thoughts, you remain a victim of life.
– However, no matter how difficult an issue we are dealing with, it is only an outer result or the effect of of an inner thought pattern.
– Look at the problems in your life. Ask yourself,”What kinds of thoughts am I having that create this?”
– “Is it true for me now?” “Would I be better off if I dropped that belief?”
– We could easily accept that love is everywhere and people are so friendly and I always have whatever I need.
– How often have we said, “That’s the way I am,” or “That’s the way it is.” Those specific words are really saying that that’s what we believe to be true for us. Usually, what we believe is only someone else’s opinion we have incorporated into our belief system.
– Are you one of the many people who will get up in the morning, see that i’s raining, and say, “Oh, what a lousy day!” It is not a lousy day. It is only a wet day.
– We will fight the day rather than flow with what is happening in the moment. There is no “good” or “bad” weather, there is just weather and our individual reactions to it.
– If we want a joyous life, we must think joyous thoughts. If we want a prosperous life, we must think prosperous thoughts. If we want a loving life, we must think loving thoughts. Whatever we send out mentally or verbally will come back to us in like form.
– Each moment is a new beginning. I repeat, the point of power is always in the present moment. You are never stuck. This is where the changes take place, right here and right now in our own minds! It doesn’t matter how long we’ve had a negative pattern…
– Remember: you are the only person who thinks in your mind! You are the power and authority in your world!
– What you are now choosing to believe and think and say will create the next moment and the next day and the next month and the next year.
– You are the power in your own world! You get to have whatever you choose to think!
– Stop for a moment and catch your thought. What are you thinking right now? If it is true that your thoughts shape your life, would you want what you were just thinking right now to become true for you?
– If you hear yourself expressing negative words of any sort, stop in midsentence. Either rephrase the sentence or just drop it. You could even say to it, “Out!”
– as soon as we learn which foods upset our bodies, we stay away from them. It’s the same with thoughts. Let us stay away from thoughts that create problems and pain.
– “When there is a problem, there is not something to do, there is something to know.” – Dr. Raymond Charles Barker
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. I no longer choose to believe in old limitations and lacks. I now choose to begin to see myself as the Universe sees me, perfect, whole and complete. The truth of my Being is that I was created perfect, whole and complete. I am now perfect, whole and complete. I will always be perfect, whole and complete. I now choose to live my life from this understanding. I am in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing. All is well in my world.
– Throwing up our hands in horror at what we man call the mess of our lives and just giving up are the ways many people react at this point. Others get angry at themselves or at life and also give up.
– It’s foolish reaction to waste your time only getting angry. It’s also a refusal to see life in a new and different way. It would be much more helpful to ask yourself how you are creating so many situations to get angry at.
– What are you believing that causes all these frustrations? What are you giving out that attracts in others the need to irritate you? Why do you believe that to get your way you need to get angry? Whatever you give out comes back to you. The more you give out anger, the more you are creating situations for you to get angry at, like sitting in the corner with a dunce hat on getting nowhere.
– If you really want to know how stubborn you are, just approach the idea of being willing to change. We all want to have our lives change, to have situations become better and easier, but we don’t want to have to change. We would rather they change. In order to have this happen, we must change inside. We must change our way of thinking, change our way of speaking, change our way of expressing ourselves. Only then will the outer changes occur.
– Each old layer must give in way order to be replaced with new thinking. Some of it is easy, and some of it is like trying to lift a boulder with a feather. The more tenaciously I hold onto an old belief when I say I want to make a change, the more I know this is an important one for me to release.
– The main difference between the way I used to work at releasing beliefs, and the way I do it today, is that now I don’t have to be angry at myself in order to do so. I no longer choose to believe that I’m a bad person just because I find something else to change within me.
– I go through my mental rooms and examine the thoughts and beliefs in them. Some I love, so I polish and shine them and make them even more useful. Some I notice need to replacement or repair and I get around to them as I can. Some are like yesterday’s newspaper and old magazines or clothing that’s no longer suitable.
– I am willing to change. You can touch your throat as you say this. The throat is the energy center in the body where change takes place. By touching your throat, you are acknowledging you are i the process of changing. Be willing to allow the changes to happen when they come up in your life. Be aware that where you DO NOT WANT TO CHANGE is exactly the area where you NEED to change the most. “I am willing to change.”
– There is a spiritual approach, there is the mental approach, and the physical approach. Holistic healing includes body, mind, and spirit. You can begin in any one of these areas as long as you eventually include all the areas. Some begin with the mental approach and do workshops and therapy. Some begin in the spiritual area with meditation and prayer.
– When you begin to clean your house, it really doesn’t matter which room you start in. Just begin in the area that appeals to you most. The others will happen almost by themselves.
– Junk food eaters who begin on spiritual level often find that they are drawn to nutrition…One level will always lead to another as long as there is the willingness to grow and change.
– It’s the same thing with cleaning up a dried-on crusty mental pattern. When we soak it with new ideas all the gook comes to the surface to look at. Just keep doing the new affirmations, and soon you will have totally cleared an old limitations.
– Mirror work – Go look in a mirror and say to yourself, “I am willing to change.” Notice how you feel. If you are hesitant or resistant or just don’t want to change, ask yourself why. What old belief are you holding on to? Please don’t scold yourself, just notice what it is. I’ll bet that belief has been causing you a lot of trouble. I wonder where it came from. Do you know? Whether we know where it came from or not, let’s do something to dissolve it, now. Again go to the mirror and looking deep into your own eyes, touch your throat and say out loud ten times, “I am willing to release all resistance.”
– Whenever we look into the mirror today, most of us will say something negative to ourselves. We either criticize our looks or berate ourselves for something. To look yourself straight in the eye and make a positive declaration about yourself is, in my opinion, the quickest way to get results with affirmations.
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. I now choose calmly and objectively to see my old patterns and I am willing to make changes. I am teachable. I can learn. I am willing to change. I choose to have fun doing this. I choose to react as though I have found a treasure when I discover something else to release. I see and feel myself changing moment by moment. Thoughts no longer have any power over me. I am the power in my world. I choose to be free. All is well in my world.
– Often our reaction to this first stage is to think the approach is silly, or that it doesn’t make sense.
– Impatience is only another form of resistance. It is resistance to learning and changing. When we demand that it be done right now, completed at once, then we don’t give ourselves time to learn the lessons involved with the problem we have created.
– If you want to move to another room, you have to get up and move step by step in that direction. Just sitting in your chair and demanding that you be in the other room will not work. It’s the same thing. We all want our problem to be over with, but we don’t want to do the small thins that will add up to the solution.
– I’m not talking about having guilt, nor about being a “bad person” for being where you are. I am saying to acknowledge the “power within you” that transforms our every thought into experience. In the past we unknowingly used this power to create things we did not want to experience.
– Resistance is coming to the fore, and I know we have hit upon exactly what needs to be done.
– We all have lessons to learn. The things that are so difficult for us are only the lessons we have chosen for ourselves. If things are easy for us, then they are not lessons but are things we already know.
– If you think of the hardest thing for you to do and how much your resist it, then you’re looking at your greatest lesson at the moment.
– Non-verbal Clues you are resisting something: Changing the subject, Leaving the room, Going to the bathroom, Being late, Getting sick, Procrastinating, Looking away or out the window, Flipping through a magazine, Refusing to pay attention, Eating, drinking, smoking, Creating or ending a relationship, Creating breakdowns: cars, appliances, plumbing, etc.
– Too often instead of working on our own changes, we decide which of our friends needs to change.
– I push my clients because they come to me. I leave my friends alone.
– For every habit we have, for every experience we go through over and over, for every pattern we repeat, there is a NEED WITHIN US for it. The need corresponds to some belief we have. If there were not a need, we wouldn’t have it, do it, or be it.
– Whatever we are trying to release in our lives is just a symptom, an outer effect. Trying to eliminate the symptom without working on dissolving the cause is useless.
– If you have ever untangled a ball of string, you know that yanking and pulling only makes it worse. You need to very gently and patiently unravel the knots. Be gentle and patient with yourself as you untangle your own mental knots.
– “There is nobody like you. Just be yourself. Do it for the fun of it. There are people out there looking for exactly what you have to offer. Let them know you exist.”
– “I am willing to release the need to be unworthy. I am worthy of the very best in life and I now lovingly allow myself to accept it. As I spend a few days doing this affirmation over and over, my outer effect pattern of _________ will automatically begin to fade. As I internally create a pattern of self-worth, then I no longer have the need to delay my good.”
– “I am willing to release the pattern within me that is creating this condition.” You can say this to yourself over and over every time you think of your illness or problem.
– Almost all of our programming, both negative and positive, was accepted by us by the time we were three years old. Our experiences since then are based upon what we accepted and believed about ourselves and about life at that time. The way we were treated when we were very little is usually the way we treat ourselves.
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. I see any resistance patterns within me only as something else to release. They have no power over me. I am the power in my world. I flow with the changes taking place in my life as best I can. I approve of myself and the way I am changing. I am doing the best I can. Each day gets easier. I rejoice that I am in the rhythm and flow of my ever-changing life. Today is a wonderful day. I choose to make it so. All is well in my world.
– “I cross bridges with joy and ease.”
– The principles we will be working with at this time are: Nurturing the willingness to let go. Controlling the mind. Learning how to forgiveness of self and others releases us.
– There’s some pages in here about releasing the need for cigarettes and how that’s the first place to start pulling the thread. That leads to releasing the need for uncomfortable relationships, ciragettes were a symptom, the reason the relationships are uncomfortable are because you get criticized a lot, which then leads to releasing the need to be criticized, pulling this string means you realize as a kid you were criticized a lot and it feels like home to be crticizied, so you forgive those you did that too you… Interesting…
– Releasing the need: Go to the mirror and look yourself in the eyes. “I now realize that I have created this condition, am I am now willing to release the patten in my consciousness that is responsible for this condition.” Ask yourself if you really mean it. Convince yourself in the mirror that this time you are ready to step out of the bondage of the past. One of the great things is that we do not have to know how. All we need is to be willing. The Universal Intelligence of your subconscious mind will figure out the hows.
– The way you now use your mind is only a habit, and habits, any habits can be changed if we want to do so, or even if we only know it is possible to do so.
– The thoughts you “choose” to think create the experiences you have. If you believe that it is hard or difficult to change a habit or a thought, then your choice of this thought will make it true for you. If you would choose to think, “It is becoming easier for me to make changes,” then you choice of this thought will make that true for you.
– When your old thinking tries to come back and say, “It’s so hard to change,” take mental control. Say to your mind, “I now choose to believe it is becoming easier for me to make changes.”
– Your old thoughts are gone; there is nothing you can do about them except live out the experiences they caused. Your future thoughts have not been formed, and you do not know what they will be. Your current thought, the one you are thinking right now, is totally under your control.
– you are not a helpless victim of your own thoughts, but rather a master of your own mind. She uses the example of a parent and a child. If the child had been given free reign, say at bedtime, then as soon as you start imposing rules it’s going to rebel. If you cave and give in to them, the child will continue to test you for here on out. However, if you are firm and calm, it will test you a little less each subsequent night….
– List all the things you are willing to let go of. How willing are you to do this? Notice your reactions. What will you have to do to let these things things go? how willing are you to do so? What is your resistance level?
– I know that when we are stuck, it usually means there is some more forgiving to be done. When we do not flow freely with life in the present moment, it usually means we are holding on to a past moment. It can be regret, sadness, hurt, fear or guilt, blame, anger, resentment and sometimes even the desire for revenge. Each one of these states comes from a space of unforgiveness, a refusal to let go and come into the present moment.
– Again sit quietly with your eyes closed and say, “The person I need to forgive is _____ and I forgive you for _____.” Then imagine the person you are forgiving saying it to you. DO this for at least five or ten minutes. Search your heart for the injustices you still carry. Then let them go.
– When you have cleared as much as you can for now, turn your attention to yourself. Say out loud to yourself, “I forgive myself for ____.” Do this for another five minutes or so. These are powerful exercises and good to do at least once a week to clear out any remaining rubbish.
– See yourself as a child, look into your eyes, give yourself love. Hug him. Tell him how much you love him and how special you are. Promise you’ll always be there for him. Tell him it’s alright to fail and learn and make mistakes. Then do this for your parents. See your mom as a little girl and your dad as a little boy.
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. Change is the natural law of my life. I welcome change. I am willing to change. I choose to change my thinking. I choose to change the words I use. I move from the old to the new with ease and with joy. It is easier for me to forgive than I thought. Forgiving makes me feel free and light. It is with joy that I learn to love myself more and more. The more resentment I release, the more love I have to express. Changing my thoughts make me feel good. I am learning to choose to make today a pleasure to experience. All is well in my world.
– The above shows how we are are culturally taught to fight the negative mentally—thinking that if we do so, the positive will automatically come to us. It doesn’t work that way.
– How often have you lamented about what you didn’t want? Did it ever bring you what you really wanted? Fighting the negative is a total waste of time if you really want to make changes in your life. The more you dwell on what you don’t want, the more of it you create. The things about yourself or your life that you have always disliked are probably still with you.
– Learn to think in positive affirmations
– Continuously make positive statements about how you want your life to be. However, there is one point that is important in this: Always make your statements in the present tense. I am. I have. Your subconscious mind is such an obedient servant that if you declare in future tense, I want or I will have, then that is where it will always stay—just out of your reach in the future.
– Remember the times when you were in love and for those periods you seemed to have no problems? Well, loving yourself is going to bring such a surge of good feelings and good fortune to you that you will be dancing on air. Loving yourself makes you feel good.
– It is impossible to really yourself unless you have self-approval and self-acceptance. This means no criticism whatsoever.
– Self-criticism is just the mind going on with old chatter. See how you have trained your mind to berate you and be resistant to change?
– Let’s go back to an exercise we did earlier. Look into the mirror again and say, “I love and approve of myself exactly as I am.”… self approval and self acceptance are the keys to positive change.
– I was not aware that all good begins with accepting that which is within one’s self, and loving that self which is you.
– Good health begins with loving the self. So do prosperity and love and creative self-expression. Later I learned to love and approve of all of me, even those qualities I thought were “not good enough.” That was when I really began to make progress.
– Exercise – I approve myself – For the next month say over and over to yourself, “I approve of myself.” Do this three or four hundred times a day, at least. Let I approve of myself become a walking mantra, something you just say over and over and over to yourself, almost nonstop…When the negative thought comes up…give it no importance. Just see the thought for what it is, another way to keep you stuck in the past. Gently say to this thought, “I let you go, I approve of myself.”
– Now matter what happens, no matter who says what to you, no matter who does what to you just keep it going. In fact, when you can say that to yourself when someone is doing something you don’t approve of, you will know you are growing and changing.
– If I were with you and kept telling you, “You are a purple pic, you are a purple pig.” You would either laugh at me, or get annoyed with me and think I was crazy. It would be most unlikely you would think it was true. Yet many of the things we have chosen to believe about ourselves are just as far out and untrue. To believe that your self-worth is dependent on the shape of your body is your version of believing that “You are a purple pig.”
– Often what we think of as the things “wrong” with us are only our expression of our own individuality…We are meant to be different. When we can accept this, then there is no competition and no comparison. To try to be like another is to shrivel our soul. We have come to this planet to express who we are.
– Think thoughts that make you happy. Do things that make you feel good. Be with people who make you feel good. Eat things that make your body feel good. Go at a pace that makes you feel good.
-The soil you plant is your subconscious mind. The seed is the new affirmation. The whole new experience is in this tiny seed. You water it with affirmations. You let the sunshine of positive thoughts beam on it. You weed the garden by pulling out the negative thoughts that come up. And when you first see the tiniest little evidence, you don’t on it and say, “That’s enough!” Instead, you look at this first breakthrough and say with glee, “Oh boy! Here it comes! It’s working!”
– Do you believe you deserve to have what you desire? If you don’t, you won’t allow yourself to have it. Circumstances beyond your control will crop up to frustrate you. “I deserve to have/or be ____ and I accept it now”. Say it two or three times. How do you feel? Does it feel true, or do you still feel unworthy? If you have any negative feelings in your body, then go back to affirming, “I release the pattern in my consciousness that is creating resistance to my good.” “I deserve…”
– sit with your eyes closed and say, “What is it I need to know?” and then wait quietly for an answer. If the answer comes, fine; if it doesn’t, fine. It will come another day.
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. My life is ever new. Each moment of my life is new and fresh and vital. I use my affirmative thinking to create exactly what I want. This is a new day. I am a new me. I think differently. I speak differently. I act differently. Others treat me differently. My new world is a reflection of my new thinking. It is a joy and a delight to plant new seeds, for I know these seeds will become my new experiences. All is well in my world.
– The process of learning is always the same no matter what the subject—whether you’re learning to drive a car, or type, or play tennis, or think in a positive manner. First, we fumble and bumble as our subconscious mind learns by trial and yet, every time we come back to our practicing it gets easier, and we do it a little better.
– I am doing the best I can
– I well remember my first lecture. When I came down from the podium, I immediately said to myself, “Louise, you were wonderful. You were absolutely fantastic for the first time. When you have done five or six of these, you will be a pro.” A couple of hours later, I said to myself, “I think we could change a few things. Let’s adjust this and let’s adjust that.” I refused to criticize myself.
– When I learned the computer’s laws, then she did indeed perform “magic” for me. When I did not follow her laws to the letter, then either nothing would happen or it would not work the way I wanted it to work. She would not give an inch.
– Now when I awaken and before I even open my eyes, I thank the bed for a good night’s sleep. After all, we have spent the whole night together in comfort. Then with my eyes still closed, I spend about ten minutes just being thankful for all the good in my life.
– Daily Affirmation Exercise: Take one or two affirmations and write them 10 or 20 times a day. Read them aloud with enthusiasm. Make a song out of your affirmations and sign them with joy. Let your mind go over these affirmations all day long. Consistently used affirmations become beliefs and will always produce results, sometimes in ways we cannot even imagine.
– I love myself exercise: I assume you are already saying, “I approve of myself” almost nonstop. This is a powerful basis. Keep it up for at least a month. Now take a pad of paper and at the top write, “I love myself therefore…” Finish this sentence in as many ways as you can. Read it over daily, and add to it as you think of new things.
– Exercise – Claim the new – Visualize or imagine yourself having or doing or being what you are working toward. Fill in all the details. Feel, see, taste, touch, hear. Notice other people’s reactions to your new state. Make it all okay with you no matter what their reactions are.
– Love who and what you are and what you do. Laugh at yourself and at life, and nothing can touch you. It’s all temporary anyway. Next lifetime you will do it differently anyway, so why not do it differently right now?
– Norman cousins wrote a book about healing himself with laughter?
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete. I support myself, and life supports me. I see evidence of the law working all around me and in every area of my life. I reinforce that which I learn in joyous ways. My day begins with gratitude and joy. I look forward with enthusiasm to the adventures of the day, knowing that in my life, “All is good.” I love who I am and all that I do. I am the living, loving, joyous expression of life. All is well in my world.
– It seems all of life is relationships. We have relationships with everything. You are even having a relationship now with the book you are reading and my concepts.
– I am not blaming our parents, because we are all victims of victims.
– What we attract always mirrors either qualities we have or beliefs we have about relationships. This is true whether it is a boss, a coworker, an employee, a friend, a lover, a spouse, or child. The things you don’t like about thees people are either what you yourself do or would like to do, or what you believe.
– Exercise: Us and vs Them – Look for a moment at someone in your life who bothers you. Describe three things about this person that you don’t like, things that you want them to change. Now look deeply inside of you and ask yourself, “Where am I like that, and when do I do the same things?” Close your eyes and give yourself the time to do this. Then ask yourself if you are willing to change. When you remove these patterns, habits, and beliefs from your thinking and behavior, either they will change or leave your life.
– This is the only way to change others — change ourselves first. Change your patterns, and you will find “they” are different too. Blame is useless. Blaming only gives away your power. Without your power, we cannot make changes. The helpless victim cannot see a way out.
– Love comes when we least expect it. when we are not looking for it. Hunting for love never brings the right partner. It only creates longing and unhappiness. Love is never outside ourselves; love is within us.
– Don’t insist that love comes immediately. Perhaps you are not ready for it, or you are not developed enough to attract the love you want.
– Don’t settle for anybody just to have someone. Set you standards. What kind of love do you want to attract? List the qualities you really want in the relationship. Develop those qualities in yourself and you will attract a person who has them.
– You might examine what may be keeping love away. Could it be criticism? Feelings of unworthiness? Unreasonable standards? Movie star images? Fear of intimacy? A belief that you are unlovable?
– Be ready for love when it does come. Prepare the field and be ready to nourish love. Be loving and you will be lovable. Be open and receptive to love.
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. I live in harmony and balance with everyone I know. Deep at the center of my being, there is an infinite well of love. I now allow this love to flow to the surface. It fills my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness, my very being, and radiates out from me in all directions and returns to me multiplied. The more love I use and give, the more I have to give. The supply is endless. The use of love makes me feel good, it is an expression of my inner joy. I love myself; therefore, I take loving care of my body. I lovingly feed it nourishing food and beverages, I lovingly groom it and dress it, and my body lovingly responds to me with vibrant health and energy. I love myself; therefore, I provide for myself a comfortable home, one that fills all my needs and is a pleasure to be in. I fill the rooms with the vibration of love so that all who enter, myself included, will feel this love and be nourished by it. I love myself; therefore, I work at a job I truly enjoy doing, one that uses my creative talents and abilities, working with and for people I love and who love me, and earning a good income. I love myself; therefore I behave and think in a loving way to all people for I know that that which I give out returns to me multiplied. I only attract loving people in my world, for they are a mirror of what I am. I love myself; therefore I forgive and totally release the past and all past experiences and I am free. I love myself; therefore, I live totally in the now, experiencing each moment as good and knowing that my future is bright and joyous and secure, for I am a beloved child of the Universe and the Universe lovingly takes care of me now and forever more. All is well in my world.
– Begin by blessing your current position with love. Realize that this is only a stepping stone on your pathway. You are where you are because of your own thinking patterns.
– So, in your mind, look around your current job or the job you had last and being to bless everything with love – the building, the elevators or stairs, the furniture and equipment, the people you work for and the people you work with – and each and every customer
– Open your heart and let your talents flow out of you. Bless the establishment, the people you work with, and the people you work for, and each and every customer with love and all will go well.
– Know that there are people out there looking for exactly what you have to offer, and that you are being brought together on the checkerboard of life even now.
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect whole and complete. My unique creative talents and abilities flow through me and are expressed in deeply satisfying ways. There are people out there who are always looking for my services. I am always in demand and can pick and choose what I want to do. I earn good money doing what satisfies me. My work is a joy and a pleasure. All is well in my world.
– What does “failure” mean anyway? Does it mean that something did not turn out the way you wanted it to, or the way you were hoping? The law of experience is always perfect. We outpicture our inner thoughts and beliefs perfectly. You have left out a step or had an inner belief that told you you id not deserve – or you felt unworthy.
– It only means that there is something else for me to learn.
– “If at first you don’t succeed, try try again,” … It doesn’t mean beat yourself up and try the same old way again. It means recognize your error and try another way – until you learn to do it correctly.
– When we set standards that are much too high for where we are at this moment, standards we cannot possibly achieve right now, then we will always fail.
– When a little child is learning to walk or talk, we encourage it and praise it for every tiny improvement the child makes. The child beams and eagerly tries to do better. Is this the way you encourage yourself when you are learning something new?
– Rehearsal is a period of time to make mistakes, to try new ways and to learn. Only by practicing over and over do we learn the new and make it a natural part of us. When you watch an accomplished professional in any field, you are looking at innumerable hours of practice.
– Learning is making mistakes until our subconscious mind can put together the right pictures.
– Some affirmations: Everything I touch is a success; There is plenty for everyone, including me. ; There are plenty of customers for my service.
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. I am one with the Power that created me. I have within me all the ingredients for success. I now allow the success formula to flow through me and manifest in my world. Whatever I am guided to do will be a success. I learn from every experience. I go from success to success and from glory to glory. My pathway is a series of stepping stones to ever greater successes. All is well in my world.
– I deserve the best and I accept the best now.”
– To me, true prosperity beings with feeling good about yourself. It is also the freedom to do what you want to do, when you want to do it. It is never an amount of money, it is a state of mind.
– If we do not accept the idea that we “deserve” to prosper, then even when abundance falls in our laps, we will refuse it somehow.
– He had been frightened to “move forward” in a new “prosperous direction” and felt undeserving, so he punished himself in this way.
– Be grateful for what you do have and you will it increase. I like to bless with love all that is in my life now, my home, the heat, water, light, telephone, furniture, plumbing, appliances, clothing, transportation…
– Keep the flow of things moving through you. Just smile and say thank you. This way you let the Universe know you are ready to receive your good.
– Cluttered closets mean a cluttered mind. As you clean the closet, say to yourself, “I am cleaning out the closets of my mind.” The Universe loves symbolic gestures.
– “The abundance of the Universe is available to everyone.”
– It was my belief I was “unworthy” and “not deserving” that “Money is difficult to come by” and that “I do not have talents and abilities” that kept me stuck in a mental system of “not having.”
– It is time to open yourself to the potential of receiving the flow of money and all good.
– Many people treat bills as punishment to be avoided if possible. A bill is an acknowledgement of our ability to pay. The creditor assumes you are affluent enough and gives you the service or product first. I bless with love each and every bill that comes into my home. I bless with love and stamp a small kiss on each and every check I write. If you pay with resentment, money has a hard time coming back to you. If you pay with love and joy, you open the free flowing channel of abundance. Treat your money as a friend, not as something you wad up and crush into your pocket.
– The Universe is lavish and abundant and it is our birthright to be supplied with everything we need, unless we choose to believe it to the contrary.
– I bless my telephone with love each time I use it, and I affirm often that it brings me only prosperity and expressions of love. I do the same with my mail box, and each day it is filled to overflowing with money and love letters of all kinds from friends and clients and far off readers of my book. The bills that come in I rejoice over, thanking the companies for trusting me to pay. I bless my doorbell and the front door, knowing that only good comes into my home. I expect my life to be good and joyous, and it is.
– Don’t delay your own prosperity by being resentful or jealous that someone else has more than you. Don’t criticize the way they choose to spend their money. It is none of your business.
– Just take care of our own thoughts. Bless another’s good fortune, and know there is plenty for all.
– Do you pinch pennies when you don’t need to buying day-old vegetables or bread? Do you do your shopping in a thrift shop, or do you always order the cheapest thing on the menu?
– Ocean of Abundance – visualization – See yourself on the beach. Others around you. The ocean abundance. Look down at your hands. What kind of container are you holding? What size? Does it have a hole in it? Is it tiny? Huge? Whatever it is. Look around. See everyone holding whatever their holding. Hell it could be a pipeline directly into the ocean and see that no matter who has what or how many there is still enough for everyone.
– I sit at least once a day with my arms stretched out to the side and say, “I am open and receptive to all the good and abundance in the Universe.” It gives me the feeling of expansion.
– We want to enjoy the money. Do you allow yourself to have pleasure with money? If no, why not? A portion of everything you take in can go to pure pleasure. Did you have any fun with your money last week? Why not? What old beliefs is stopping you? Let it go.
– Money does not have to be a serious subject in your life.
– Every time time we think or say a negative about our money situation, we fine ourselves a certain amount and put it in a container. At the end of the week, we have to spend this money pleasures. From Money Love by Jerry Gilles
– Do not limit the Universe by insisting that you have “only” a certain salary or income. That salary or income is a channel; it is not your source. Your supply comes from once source, the Universe itself.
– I am open and receptive to new avenues of income. I now receive my good from expected and unexpected sources. I am an unlimited being accepting from an unlimited source in an unlimited way.
– Begin to recognize prosperity everywhere and rejoice in it. Reverend Ike, the well-known evangelist in New York City, remembers as a poor preacher he used to walk by good restaurants and homes and automobiles and clothing establishments and say out loud, “That’s for me. That’s for me.” Allow fancy homes and banks and fine stores and showrooms of all sorts – and yachts – to give you pleasure. Recognize that all this is part of your abundance and you are increasing your consciousness to partake of these things if you desire. If you see well-dressed people, think, “Isn’t it wonderful that they have so much abundance? There is plenty for all of us.”
– And yet we do not own anything. We only use possessions for a period of time until they pass on to someone else. Sometimes a possession may stay in a family for a few generations, but eventually it will pass on. There is a natural rhythm and flow of life. Things come, and things go. I believe that when something goes, it is only to make room for something new and better.
– So many people want to be rich, and yet they won’t accept a compliment.
– Compliments are gifts of prosperity. Learn to accept them graciously. My mother taught me early to smile and say, “Thank you” when I received a compliment or gift.
– It is even better to accept the compliment and return it so the gives feels as though he or she has received a gift. It is a way of keeping the flow of good going.
– Rejoice in the abundance of being able to awaken each morning and experience a new day. Be glad to be alive, to be healthy, to have friends, to be creative, to be a living example of the joy of living. Live to your highest awareness. Enjoy your transformational process.
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. I am one with the power that created me. I am totally open and receptive to the abundant flow of prosperity that the universe offers. All my needs and desire are met before I even ask, I am divinely guided and protected, and I make choices that are beneficial to me. I rejoice in other’s successes, knowing there is plenty for us all. I am constantly increasing my conscious awareness of abundance, and this reflects in a constantly increasing income. My good comes from everywhere and everyone. All is well in my world.
– I believe we create every so called “illness” in our body. The body, like everything else in life, is a mirror for our inner thoughts and beliefs. The body is always talking to us, if we will only take the time to listen.
– The head represents us. It is what we show the world. It is how we are usually recognized. When something is wrong in the head area, it usually means we feel something is very wrong with “us.”
– Tension is not being strong. Tension is weakness. Being relaxed and centered and peaceful is really being strong and secure.
– The ears represent the capacity to hear. When there are problems with the ears, it usually means something is going on you do not what to hear.
– The eyes represent the capacity to see. When there are problems with the eyes, it usually means there is something we do not want to see, either about ourselves or about life; past, present, or future.
– Headaches come from invalidating the self. The next time you get a headache, stop and ask yourself where and how you have just made yourself wrong. Forgive yourself, let it go, and the headache will dissolve back into the nothingness from whence it came.
– Migraine headaches are created by people who want to be perfect and who create a lot of pressure on themselves. A lot of suppressed anger is involved. Interestingly, migraine headaches can almost always be alleviated by masturbation if you do it as soon as you feel the migraine coming on.
– Sinus problems, felt right in the face and so close to the nose, represent being irritated by someone in your life, someone who is close to you.
– No person, no place, and no thing has any power over us, for “we” are the only thinkers in our mind. We create our experiences, our reality, and everyone in it.
– When there are problems with the neck, it usually means we are being stubborn about our own concept of a situation.
– Sore throats are always anger. If a cold is involved, then there is mental confusion too.
– There’s a highlighted star? by the passage on hands, because I like it, I think? pg 131 Tightly grasping a relationship only has the partner run away in desperation. Tightly clenched hands cannot take in anything new. Shaking the hands freely from the wrist gives a feeling of looseness and openness. That which belongs to you cannot be taken from you, so relax.
– Emphysema and heavy smoking are ways of denying life. They mask a deep feeling of being totally unworthy of existing.
– If cancer is involved, then there is also deep resentment.
– The heart, of course, represents love, while our blood represents joy. Our hearts lovingly pump joy throughout our bodies. When we deny ourselves joy and love, the heart shrivels and becomes cold.
– The heart does not “attack” us. We get so caught up in the soap opera and dramas we create that we often forget to notice the little joys that surround us. We spend years squeezing all the joy out of the heart, and it literally falls over in pain. Heart attack people are never joyous people. If they do not take the time to appreciate the joys of life, they will just recreate another heart in time.
– When there are stomach problems, it usually means we don’t know how to assimilate the new experiences. We are afraid.
– people don’t really throw up on planes anymore because we’ve gotten more comfortable with the idea of flying, and it’s fear that leads to stomach stuff.
– Ulcers are no more than fear; tremendous fear of “not being good enough.”
– Love is the answer here. People who love and approve of themselves never have ulcers. Be gentle and loving to the child within, and give it all the support and encouragement you wanted when you were little.
– Bladder problems, anal problems, vaginitis, and prostate, and penis problems all come under the same area. They stem from distorted beliefs about our bodies and the correctness of their function.
– Every organ in our body is a magnificent expression of life with its own special functions. We do not think of our livers or our eyes as dirty of sinful. Why do we then choose to believe our genitals are?
– Sex is not only oaky, it is glorious and wonderful. It is as normal for us to have sex as it is for us to breathe or eat.
– I find it hard to believe that the vast, incredible Intelligence that created this entire Universe is only an old man sitting on a cloud above the Planet Earth…watching my genitals.
– It is vital that we release foolish, outmoded ideas that do not support us and nourish us.
– I feel strongly that even our concept of God needs to be one that is for us, not against us. There are so many different religions to choose from. If you have one now that tells you you are a sinner and lowly worm, get another one.
– When we remove sexual guilt from people and teach them to love and respect themselves, then they will automatically treat themselves and others in ways that are for their highest good and greatest joy.
– I find that most bladder problems come from being “pissed off,” usually at a partner. Something makes us angry that has to do with our femininity or our masculinity.
– Prostate problems have a lot to do with self-worth and also believing that as he gets older he becomes less of a man.
– Venereal disease is almost always sexual guilt.
– Herpes is a disease that comes back again and again “to punish us” for our belief that “we are bad.”
– The colon – It is only our fears that block the releasing of the old. Even if constipated people are not actually stingy, they usually do not trust that there will ever be enough.
– We do not rummage in last night’s garbage to find today’s meal. Learn to trust the process of life always to bring you what you need.
– Varicose veins represent standing in a job or place that we hate. The veins lose their ability to carry joy.
– The next time you have a knee problem, ask yourself where you are being self-righteous, where you are refusing to bend. Drop the stubbornness and let go. Life is flow, life is movement and to be comfortable, we must be flexible and move with it.
– Our skin represent our individuality. Skin problems usually mean we feel our individuality is being threatened somehow. We feel that others have power over us… One of the quickest ways to heal skin problems is to nurture yourself by saying in your mind, “I approve of myself,” several hundred times a day. Take back your own power.
– Accidents are attracted to us by our thoughts too. They are expressions of anger and frustration, built up. Not feeling free to speak up or be ourselves. Feeling the need to punish others or be punished for being bad. Also a way to get sympathy or attention from others. The part of the body affected is a clue as to where our guilt lies, the recovery time is how long we feel we should be punished for…
– Self-hatred is only hating a thought you have about yourself. Thoughts can be changed.
– Arthritis is a disease that comes from a constant pattern of criticism. First of all, criticism of self, and then criticism of other people. Why do we set up standards that say we have to be “Super Person” in order to be barely acceptable?
– Boils, burns, cuts, fevers, sores, ‘itis’, and inflammations are all anger being expressed in the body….yet anger can be released as simply as saying, “I am angry about this.”
– Cancer is a disease caused by deep resentment held for a long time until it literally easy away at the body. Something happens in childhood that destroys the sense of trust. This experience is never forgotten; and the individual lives with a sense of self-pity, finding it hard to develop and maintain long-term, meaningful relationships. Because of that belief system, life seems to be a series of disappointments. A feeling of hopelessness and helplessness and loss permeates the thinking, and it becomes easy to blame others for all our problems. People with cancer are also very self-critical. To me, learning to love and accept the self is the key to healing caners.
– Overweight represents a need for protection.
– Pain of any sort, to me, is an indication of guilt. Guilt always seeks punishment, and punishment creates pain…Guilt is a totally useless emotion. It never makes anyone feel better nor does it change a situation.
– Strokes are blood clots…The brain is the computer of the body. Blood is joy. The veins and arteries are channels of joy….Negative thinking clogs up the brain, and there is no room for love and joy to flow in its free and open way.
– Stiffness ins the body represents stiffness in the mind. Fear makes us cling to old ways, and we find it difficult to be flexible.
– Swelling of the body represents clogging and stagnation in the emotional thinking. We create situations where we get “hurt,” and we cling to these emotions. Swelling often represents bottled up tears, feeling stuck and trapped, or blaming others for our own limitations.
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. I recognize my body as a good friend. Each cell in my body had Divine Intelligence. I listen to what it tells me, and know that its advice is valid. I am always safe, and Divinely protected and guided. I choose to be healthy and free. All is well in my world.
– A good way to use this list when you have a physical problem: Look up the mental cause. See if this could be true for you. If not, sit quietly and ask yourself, “What could be the thoughts in me that created this?”
– Repeat to yourself, “I am willing to release the pattern in my consciousness that has created this condition.”
– Repeat the new thought pattern to yourself several times.
– Assume that you are already in the process of healing. Whenever you think of the condition, repeat the steps.
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. I accept perfect health as the natural state of my being. I now consciously release any mental patterns within me that could express as dis-ease in any way. I love and approve of myself. I love and approve of my body. I feed it nourishing foods and beverages. I exercise it in ways that are fun. I recognize my body as a wondrous and magnificent machine, and I feel privileged to live in it. I love lots of energy. All is well in my world.
– I learned that junky foods accumulate and create a toxic body. Junky thoughts accumulate and create toxic conditions in the mind.
– In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. Each one of us, myself included, experiences the richness and fullness of life in ways that are meaningful to us. I now look at the past with love and choose to learn from my old experiences. There is no right or wrong, nor good or bad. The past is over and done. There is only the experience of the moment. I love myself for bringing myself through this past into this present moment. I share what and who I am, for I know we are all one in Spirit. All is well in my world.
– Deep at the center of my being there is an infinite well of love. I now allow this love to flow to the surface. It fills me heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness, my very being, and radiates out from me in all directions and returns to me multiplied. The more love I use and give, the more I have to give. The supply is endless. The use of love makes me feel good it is an expression of my inner joy. I love myself therefore I take loving care of my body. I lovingly feed it nourishing food and beverages. I lovingly groom it and dress it, and my body lovingly responds to me with vibrant health and energy. I love myself therefore I provide for myself a comfortable home, one that fills all my needs and is a pleasure to be in. I fill the rooms with the vibration of love so that all who enter, myself included, will feel this love and be nourished by it. I love myself therefore I work at a job that I truly enjoy doing, one that use my creative talents and abilities, working with and for people that I love and that love me, and earning a good income. I love myself therefore I behave and think in a loving way to all people for I know that that which I give out returns to me multiplied. I only attract loving people in my world for they are a mirror of what I am. I love myself therefore, I forgive and totally release the past and all past experiences and I am free. I love myself therefore I love totally in the now, experiencing each movement as good and knowing that my future is bright, and joyous, and secure for I am a beloved child of the youniverse and the youniverse lovingly takes are of me now and forever more. And so it is.